Relationship Therapy
Relationship Therapy is where two people in any dynamic are looking to work together to resolve a difference. Maybe you find yourselves at an impasse. Systems that once worked really well, now seems to have a broken down. Maybe there is something new in your relationship, and you need to work out a mutual way to move forward.
Relationship Therapy is traditionally seen as a place for couples, but it can also be beneficial for family ties (eg: parent/adult child).
Maintenance or Last Chance??
I have worked with both scenarios. Therapy can benefit relationships from the very beginning (eg: Pre-Marital), during (eg: new chapter such as having children, new job opportunities, Infertility Treatment) or to support couples that are looking to exit/end a relationship amicably.
what will it be like?
Like any well made watch, relationships rely on the intricate elements and cogs working together and harmoniously.
But relationships are fluid, and they evolve to have new challenges along the way. Different experiences can alter the workings of the relationship. It can start to feel that things are not quite so harmonious. You've reached a point of impasse, it doesn't feel the same anymore, you're not so sure about the future as you once were.
In the first session (assessment), I look to build an understanding of the relationship (past and present) and then the future goals that both parties want to achieve.
I endeavour to 'hold' the relationship without judgement whilst you confront some of the things that seem impossible to voice outside the room.
Working through a couples conflict(s) and finding the way through the fog that sits between them. If part of the relationship goals, we work towards developing new balanced systems so that the equilibrium is restored. Or, in some cases, work amicably towards a relationship ending.
What is is not
The role of the counsellor is not to be a referee, to take sides or to mediate, but rather to 'hold' the relationship toward its authentic destination.
